First impressions have always been known to be serious pointers to how a person or thing is perceived and treated.
If you base your judgements of others on the first thing you know about them, chances are that you’re also judged in like manner.
“Dress the way you want to be addressed.”
If this popular saying is true then first impressions are very important and as such we’d be doing ourselves a lot of favor if we make the best ones.
The question is how do we do that? How do you make the best first impressions?
Below are five elements you can blend into your daily life that would give others the best first impression of you.
1. Talk less listen more
This may sound obvious but most people allow themselves talk too much when they meet others for the first time. They may be trying to actually sell themselves to the other party but there’s nothing more repulsive than that. It’s like shoving food down a baby’s throat – feeding is ruined. Also, when you don’t talk you listen. Listening gives you a chance to take your own impression of the other people and respond appropriately.
2. Be sure of yourself
While it is wrong to totally dominate a first conversation, it is vital to stamp your presence. You should never keep quiet throughout a first meeting else your opinion would matter less and less. Be confident of yourself and what you are saying. Listening and speaking well will send the best message to the other party. This way you’d leave a good mark on them.
3. Be honest about yourself
In as much as you want to make a good impression, never resort to using deception to achieve it. Honesty is the best policy. When people confirm that what you told them is all true, they trust you and there’s no greater benefit of a first impression than a relationship built on trust. So when you meet someone for the first time, be honest to them and you’d always reap benefits of this honesty.
4. Be as normal as possible
This is a coronary of the above, your everyday life should be your first impression. This is because if you pretend being someone or something you’re not, you’d surely get embarrassed when your real personality shows up. Besides it is easier to always appear your normal self. Also being as normal as possible helps the other party get a true picture of who you are which is vital for relationships.
5. Be Relentlessly Generous
Always give especially to people you’re meeting for the first time. You can be generous in simple ways. For instance, you can first be generous with your time, allow the other party to finish talking before you respond or depart. Also offer directions to the other party when they need it.
In his book Life, the Truth, and Being Free, Steve Maraboli noted that – “A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.”
“A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.”
– Steve Maraboli
Generosity in no matter how little way always creates connections upon which relationships are built. Be generous!
Finally, you need to understand that how you treat one aspect of your life is a reflection of how you treat every other aspect.
So no matter how much you invest in giving a great first impression, your real self will always find a way of showing itself.
We humans are not robots who can switch gears now and then. Always be your best self.
These elements when incorporated will help you build a good first impression profile.
Question: What’s your experience with first impressions? Tell us by leaving a comment.